In Australia 1 in 3 marriages end in Divorce and 29% of people will never marry. My parent's are divorced and have both since re-married, one for over 10 years and the other hasn't been married a year yet. I know couples who have been together for way too long but will never marry because (generally) the guy says both of their parents have been divorced so let's not waste the time and $ on marriage, after all once u live together for a few years, have a kid and buy house it's all the same in a split. (real positive thinking i know)
But for all that i still really believe women grow up imagining the day they get married, for me never getting married would be like never having children, it's just something i expect to be able to do in my life.
A friend of mine who got married about 3 or 4 years ago at the age of 20 is now seperated and to be honest i don't know the reason's and i wonder were they just too young or was it just not ment to last? Taking age out of the equation there are plenty of married couples i know that i really wouldn't consider the perfect couple, it's hard to know what a relationship is meant to be like and good examples to compare too are few and far between in my world. And i swear if anybody compares their relationship to a movie or a tv show couple i will find u and slap u, it's so far from the real world that ur just asking to be disappointed.
It all begs the question why don't marriages work, or better still what is it that makes some last?
I'll let u know when i figure it out.... probably not any time soon.
this humble formula has worked well for me so far (one love, nine years)
ReplyDeleteIt helps to know your partner for some time before getting married-
learn the good and the bad things about them, what they want from their life, and how they see themselves getting there..
let them learn the good and bad things about you, what you want from your life and how you're planning to get there..
If you're both still horny, in love and compatible after finding out the good, bad and the ugly- then you're in with a chance.
I think Honesty, Integrity, Respect, Love and Compromise then become important values that each partner should have for one another, with a hint of Persistence & Stubborn in the mix as well.
The quickest killer of relationships I've seen is selfishness and impatience.
oh.. and also infidelity, but that usually comes after a breakdown of the above 'good qualities'
I'm not sure if it makes sense or not- but it's working in my life at the moment!